The best BDSM Guide for Mistress Part 2 - 20 Tips!
11– Torture His Nipples
Since nipples on men are pretty useless but very sensitive, why not use it to your advantage and torture the life out of them?
You can put clothes pegs on them, tie a string to them, put nipple clamps on and attach weights, flick them with your fingers or wave a hot cigarette near them to make him squirm.
After the cock and balls, his nipples are the most painful place to be tortured to make him suffer and abuse them.
12– Slap His Face
Giving him a good slap to his face is a perfect way to keep him in line. A big backhander or a gentle slap is all that is needed. You can make him see stars or just make his cheeks tingle.
This can be done either with him standing in front of you or when he is on his knees.
face slapping is a great activity to cement the power shift and is also good as it can be done gently for the novice or someone who doesn’t have a high pain threshold or it can be done as hard as she can muster and make him stagger and see stars.
When it comes to face slapping, sometimes the anticipation is worse than the actual impact so draw it out to prolong his terror.
Amuse yourself by moving quickly but not actually hitting him and then laugh as he flinches and cowers.
For added effect, as he stands or kneels with his hands behind his back, walks back and forth and make him shuffle so he is always facing you.
13– Put Him Across Your Knee
Nothing is more humiliating for a grown man than to be pulled across the knee of a stern woman.
Yank his pants down, expose his bare bottom and then pull him across your lap.
You can use your hand, a hairbrush or a wooden spoon on his ass and each one will sting like hell. Grab his wrist to stop him putting it over his arse to deflect your blows.
Be sure to tell him exactly WHY he is getting an OTK spanking from you (over the knee) and be sure to make him count each whack you land on his cheeks and to thank you after each one!
The arse cheeks are very fleshy and can take almost limitless abuse so you can really go to town on them
14– Take Your Belt To Him
If you want to take things up a notch, take your belt to his arse and really make him feel it.
A leather belt really stings and leaves welts that will make sitting painful.
Getting the belt will become something he hates and you will find him much more obedient as he strives to avoid getting belted. Be sure to follow it through though.
If he misbehaves he will soon learn it is an empty threat unless you bend him over and whip his ass. Make a show of taking your belt off your trousers and you can prolong his suffering by making him follow you upstairs.
15– Use A Cane
A step up from the hairbrush or the belt, using a cane is for the more advanced and experienced players.
For novices, start slow and gently and work up to harder and harder blows.
Caning is a painful thing to get and he will remember it for a long time. While the ass is capable of taking a great deal of abuse, take care to aim properly.
Don’t just start swishing away. The upper thighs and the lower back as not capable of taking the same level of abuse so make sure you hit where you are aiming.
Also, it is a good idea to give him a bit of a light spanking first to get the blood flowing to that area and prevent skin splitting.
16– Don’t Allow Him to Speak
His constant whining and complaining will only annoy you and as the one in control, you aren’t supposed to be annoyed so take away his speaking privileges.
Make him stay mute and either put up his hand to be given your permission if he wants to speak or just make him stay quiet till you decide otherwise.
It is very degrading for a man to be forbidden from speaking and he won’t realise how much he misses it till it’s been taken away
17– Apply Bathroom Privileges
Make him earn going to the bathroom. If he needs to pee, he needs to earn that privilege and ask for your permission.
Have him worship your feet, kiss your ass, give you reasons why he should be allowed to go to the toilet or make him beg.
Grant permission if you feel he earned it, deny it if you feel he didn’t. You are in control and the final say is yours. He must also understand that your decision is final
18– Have Him Perform Oral On You But Don’t Give Him Any In Return
Everyone loves getting oral sex but many people don’t like to give it. Well as a Domme, you have the unique privilege of getting as much as you like and not giving any back.
You can make your slave go down on you any time you like, as often as you like and for as long as you like and give you lot of lovely orgasms and you can then just push him away and leave him denied, wishing he could get a blowjob but ultimately just left with an erection and blue balls.
You have the pleasure of receiving a lick out without having to reciprocate and he, the sub, actually gets a kick and is turned on by wanting oral but being denied. It’s a win-win for both parties
19– Make Him Eat Food He Hates
Having to eat food you don’t like is a horrible experience. Either find out what he hates the most (mussels or scallops are a good one) and then make him eat lots of it.
Whatever he doesn’t like, fill a plate or force it down his throat. You can also add some humiliation into the mix and fill a dog bowl and make him eat it at your feet.
Give him nothing but what he hates and makes him gag, especially if he displeases you in any way.
20– Post Pictures Of Him Dressed As A Sissy Online
Dressing like a sissy or a slut in private is one thing. He can strut around, flashing his panties, sucking a dildo in a sissy cams session or serving you all in the knowledge that only you see him in this cross-dressing state.
But if you really want to humiliate him and keep his mind focused on the fact he is a prissy sissy or a sissy slut or maid then take pictures of him and put them on your website or blog. Sissy Humiliation
If you are an online Mistress who sees him when he comes for a femdom webcam session then this excitement will keep him coming back time and time again as the thought will turn him on.
One word of caution though, never put someone’s picture online without their permission. Yes, you are the Domme and he the sub but it is still his life out with the scene. Seek his permission and definitely blur his face and any distinguishing features
21– Make Him Sign A Contract
To ensure his continued obedience, make him sign a slave contract which outlines exactly what is expected of him and what you can and will do to him if he breaks any of the terms and conditions within.
Knowing he has signed a contract will keep him loyal to you and keep him in line. Of course, this contract is not legally binding and is all roleplay but it is a lot of fun!
22– Make Him Perform Menial Tasks
A good way to break your slave’s spirit and make him more obedient and less resistant, as well as keep him occupied while you relax, watch tv or chat with your friends is to make him perform menial, mind-numbing, brain mushing tasks.
Making him pour a bag of rice on the floor and count how many grains there are is a favourite.
You can also have him count cornflakes in a bowl, scrub the floor with a toothbrush, hand wash the clothing, wash every single cup plate and piece of cutlery in the house or cut grass with scissors to name just a few.
Anything really, as long as its soul-crushingly tedious and mind-numbingly boring. And long!
23– Flaunt Your Boobs In His Face
All men love a cracking pair of boobs and submissive men are no different. Since you are the Mistress and therefore way above his station and totally unattainable to him, you can really torment him by flaunting your tits inches from his face. This will drive him mental as he longs to touch them but knows he can’t because you would never allow it.
This works great on a femdom cams site as you can dangle them right in front of the webcam and tell him you would let him bury his face in them if he were there. That will drive him nuts! This works best for guys with a breast fetish or boob men but when you are dealing with males, dangling your tits in their face will turn them all to jelly!
24– Insult His Cock
Every guy on the planet has the same thing as their most prized thing. His cock. They all like to think they are magnificent, powerful, big and that women’s eyes will bulge upon seeing it. So cut him down to size by ridiculing it, calling it ugly, pathetic and telling him you would never sleep with anyone who had a cock like his.
SPH (small penis humiliation) is one of the most popular activities in female domination as it hits a guy right where it hurts so be sure to comment on its lack of size. With SPH though, you need to make sure he is “in to” it. You can’t just launch into a tirade as it can be mentally damaging. Almost all submissive men with small cocks will get off on you insulting it but make sure he is one of the first!
25– Cuckold Him
This is a popular choice for subs and Mistresses alike and can be used for couples to spice up their sex life or for a Domme/sub scenario. It can be all a fantasy where it is all talk or can actually happen. The fantasy one is much more common though and definitely recommended for beginners as once the deed is done there is no going back.
For couples, you can make him watch you get ready for a date and tell him you are going to fuck another man. You can make him listen to you tell him about men you’ve slept with since you got together or how you plan to sleep with guys from your work. For Mistresses, the sub will lust after you, have you on a pedestal and want you badly so tell him about all the real men lovers you have and how he doesn’t stand a chance with you. For the more advanced players, you can make him watch you with a real man as well
26– Lock Him In Chastity
It’s a fact that the second your submissive is out of your sight he will start playing with himself, fantasising about you and what you’ve done etc so to combat this, lock his cock in a chastity cage that forbids him getting erect and definitely no orgasms. Keep him locked up and don’t let him cum. Tease and torment him while he’s locked and you will find him much more obedient as he strives to please you in the hope you will unlock him.
You don’t want him having any pleasure and masturbating is something you definitely want to cut out of his life. Make him earn his orgasms instead of taking them for granted. Grant him unlock time for massaging your feet, preparing your meals, performing tasks to your satisfaction and so on. You hold the key, you dictate how he gets unlocked. Most slaves who are into chastity and denial who want you as an online chastity keyholder like you to wear the key to the padlock around your neck so it hangs between your breasts and its near but oh so far
27- Make Him Wear High Heels All Day
All women know exactly how much high heels torture your feet so what better way to make a man suffer than make him wear a pair all day? Not only will the humiliation of having to wear heels in the first place bring him immense shame but after a few minutes, his unused to wearing them feet will begin to ache painfully. You can make him parade around and laugh as he stumbles trying to balance but to be honest, just the shame of being made to wear women’s shoes will be enough to humiliate him
28– Keep Him Naked At All Times
CFNM (clothed female, naked male) is a staple of almost any femdom session. The act itself is usually accompanied by other aspects of femdom but it is used to shame and humiliate and shows perfectly the power exchange that has happened. You are clothed and he is naked, feeling vulnerable, exposed and embarrassed. Make him keep his hands behind his back, exposing his manhood, as you walk slowly around him. You can give sly digs about his body as well, and make insults. Putting your hands in your pockets or fixing your t-shirt or dress is a
good and subtle way to remind him you are dignified and dressed, he is naked and exposed
29– Shove A Butt Plug Up His Ass
No guy wants anything put up their ass and they definitely don’t want anything left up there so why not make him feel degraded by shoving a butt plug up there? You can make him do it himself for added humiliation. Once it is in, make him walk around and perform any tasks you want him to do. You can experiment with larger and larger plugs as time goes on or you can buy ones which inflate to whatever level you want.
30– Have Him Thank You
Whether you are slapping his face, ballbusting him, got him over your knee for a spanking or just giving him a verbal beatdown, make sure to have him thank you for it. You are torturing him and insulting him yet having to thank you for it will make him feel much more submissive to you. For face slaps and spankings etc, you can make him thank you after every whack you administer. Oh, and make sure he adds “Mistress”, “Goddess”, “Queen” or “Princess” (or whatever you wish to be addressed as) after each thank as well. Abusing and torturing a man and making him thank you for it. What fun for you!
